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Am gasit pe facebook un citat care imi place foarte mult si as vrea sa il notez aici. O sa incerc si sa-l traduc in romaneste, in masura in care intelectul imi permite.

Romancing Your Soul
“There is a different between stopping an abusive habit and actually healing from the deep-seated reason we developed the habit in the first place. For example, I bit my finger nails. When I stopped biting my nails I began the new habit of smoking cigarettes. I exchanged one negative habit for another. The self-abuse continued until I stopped running from my past and courageously looked honestly at myself.

When I accepted what happened in my past and that I could not go back and change it, something within me was released. Maybe it was the idea that someone should pay me back or should own up to their abusive behavior. When I stopped wanting someone else to change that is when I became powerful to change myself. It was challenging, but with determination, self-respect and willpower one by one the negative habits I’d used to avoid my past fell away for good. Each of them has been replaced with new positive habits of self-love.

The bottom line to release negative habits for good was accepting that abusing me would never get back at those who hurt me in the first place. If they did not care enough to treat me with respect, kindness, compassion, and patience, then I had to. I am worth treating myself with loving behaviors I did not get from others. It was stopping self-abuse that helped teach me how to love myself.” – Blessings, Regina of Romancing Your Soul

Romancing Your Soul
Exista o diferenta intre a renunta la un obicei abuziv si a se vindeca intr-adevar de motivul adanc pentru care am adoptat obiceiul de la bun inceput. De exemplu, eu imi rod unghiile. Cand am renuntat sa le mai rod am inceput sa fumez. Adica am inlocuit un obicei negative cu un altul. Auto-abuzarea a continuat pana in momentul in care m-am oprit si n-am mai fugit de trecutul meu si, curajoasa, m-am privit cu sinceritate.
Cand am reusit sa accept ce s-a intamplat in trecutul meu si ca nu ma puteam intoarce sa ceea ce a fost, ceva in mine s-a eliberat. Poate a fost idea ca cineva ar trebui sa ma despagubeasca sau sa admita ca s-au comportat abuziv. Cand am renuntat sa mai vreau ca altcineva sa vina sa schimbe asta a fost punctual in care am capatat puterea de a ma schimba. A fost dificil dar, cu hotarare, respect de sine si vointa, unul dupa altul, toate obiceiurile negative ce le foloseam pentru a-mi evita trecutul, au disparut pentru totdeauna. Fiecare din ele a fost inlocuit cu noi obiceiuri, positive, pline de iubire de sine.
Conditia principala pentru a abandona obiceiurile negative pentru totdeauna a fost de a accepta ca abuzandu-ma eu pe mine nu se intoarce impotriva celor ce m-au ranit de la bun inceput. Daca ei nu au stiut sa ma trateze cu respect, bunavointa, compasiune si rabdare, atunci trebuia sa fac eu asta. Merit sa imi ofer tratamentele iubitoare ce nu le-am primit de la ceilalti. Renuntarea la auto-abuzare m-a ajutat sa invat sa ma iubesc eu pe mine. Blessings, Regina ofRomancing Your Soul

de pe http://www.romancingyoursoul.com/

Acuma ce sa mai adaug? Cele trei fragmente contin cheia auto-eliberarii de dependente. Ati gasit-o?